There is a Chinese saying that we depend on our family members at home while friends are the one we dependent on when we are outside. Thus, friends play important roles in our life as we need them for helps, advices when we have problem etc. However, miscommunication and conflicts often occur between friends and these problems will affect the friendship. I would like to describe a hypothetical scenario that shows conflicts between friends.
The characters involved here are Andy and Mandy. Both of them were in the same society and they were really good friends. They used to stay overnight in clubroom together with other friends to study for examination. They like to flirt with each other and in their friends' eyes, they looked like buddy instead of lover.
Mandy was a very stress person when she was in mist of preparing examination since she had high demand on her result. Andy knew about her stress and encouraged her as well as tried to help her destress during examination period. Mandy felt thankful for Andy's action and was glad that she have a such a good buddy beside her.
However, as time went on, Andy has developed a special feeling toward Mandy. He was struggling at that moment of time whether he should tell Mandy about his feeling. Finally, he made a decision to tell about his special feeling. Thus, on the day Mandy treated Andy for a meal as a thank you treat, he asked Mandy for a date while they were waiting for bus. Mandy was shocked, terrified and uneasy when she heard about it as she only treated Andy as her buddy. So she decided to reject Andy's request to avoid any confusion and told him that it was better to be friends instead of go to further relationship.
From that day onwards, Mandy tried to avoid Andy as she thought it was better for them to not meet or talk to each other. Although sometimes they were accidentally bumped up, there was a weird environment surrounding them. However, after a few weeks, Mandy felt regret as she did not want to lost a good buddy but she did not know how to approach Andy to avoid confusion. So people, what you think Mandy should do??
The characters involved here are Andy and Mandy. Both of them were in the same society and they were really good friends. They used to stay overnight in clubroom together with other friends to study for examination. They like to flirt with each other and in their friends' eyes, they looked like buddy instead of lover.
Mandy was a very stress person when she was in mist of preparing examination since she had high demand on her result. Andy knew about her stress and encouraged her as well as tried to help her destress during examination period. Mandy felt thankful for Andy's action and was glad that she have a such a good buddy beside her.
However, as time went on, Andy has developed a special feeling toward Mandy. He was struggling at that moment of time whether he should tell Mandy about his feeling. Finally, he made a decision to tell about his special feeling. Thus, on the day Mandy treated Andy for a meal as a thank you treat, he asked Mandy for a date while they were waiting for bus. Mandy was shocked, terrified and uneasy when she heard about it as she only treated Andy as her buddy. So she decided to reject Andy's request to avoid any confusion and told him that it was better to be friends instead of go to further relationship.
From that day onwards, Mandy tried to avoid Andy as she thought it was better for them to not meet or talk to each other. Although sometimes they were accidentally bumped up, there was a weird environment surrounding them. However, after a few weeks, Mandy felt regret as she did not want to lost a good buddy but she did not know how to approach Andy to avoid confusion. So people, what you think Mandy should do??
Hey Pooi San,
ReplyDeleteI think here, Andy should already know that Mandy doesn't feel the same about him. Mandy could just explain it to him and let him know that she doesn't want to lose a friend like him. She has to let him know that it is impossible between them because otherwise Andy might think that there's some hope for him. Then she should give him some time to think it over, and if he can't be satisfied by simply sharing a friendship with her, they shouldn't be friends, for both of their sakes.
There is a high chance, however, that Andy would say yes to continuing their friendship yet still harbor some hope about furthering their relationship with time. Haha
That's just my opinion on the matter. Cheers!
Thanks, Pooi San, for relating this scenario.
ReplyDeleteFrom my perspective, Mandy was a bit cruel in her treatment of Andy. After all, what did she expect: she had flirted with the guy, right? Wasn't she toying with his emotions?
I'd suggest that Mandy clarify her own feelings before going any further. She may just hurt her "buddy" more if she isn't careful.
Hi Roy and Brad,
ReplyDeleteThanks for your valuable feedback for my post.
Brad, I think you are true as Mandy should clarify with Andy about her feelings.
And Roy, I think yous suggestion is good way to resolve this problem. Thanks for sharing=)